don't get me wrong...relationships are sweet....they are wonderful if you find the right person who fits you perfectly well...so you see...many of my college friends ask me why am i so serious about searching for a life partner?...they told me to enjoy and try out a few first before settling for the ONE...oh well....i find myself shivering at the thought of it....i mean....i find myself unable to adapt to the idea of being intimate with many different type of guys who are not potentially going to be my husband...of course yes, if lets say a relationship has already started and it didn't work out, things have to end...but definitely it is always best to start a relationship with the hope that you would last...isn't it?..well...i don't know...thats what i feel...
and the funniest part was when they try matchmaking me with many different types of people by teasing me and another guy...LOL....(cannot take it that i am not putting effort =P)...but anyhow to those who are experiencing the same thing as i am experiencing now...here is what you can do to stop the teasing...just admit that you and that guy has something and exaggerate that you are going to get married with that guy next month or something....LOL...they will stop...definitely. the more you deny the happier they are in teasing...its all PSYCHOLOGY...people tend to believe the opposites.
but i guess what my mom say is very true, that we should never settle for relationship especially during the time when we are desperate...because we usually didn't think much and just grab whoever available who comes along...most of my college mates are at this stage now....looking for love....in all the wrong places....at least that is what i have observed...ok sorry...cannot be so judgemental...LOL...but it is very understandable because everyone is away from home now..surely feel lonely and hope some prince charming would come along and take their hearts away and make them feel complete...it is scary being in such environment...challenging i would say...as it is quite normal as stated in social psychology...when everyone around you are doing and craving for the same thing, and you are not...it makes that particular person comply to the majority...and in my case....makes me wonder if i should be worrying about this matter too...LOL...but of course these thoughts were always temporary....thank God i have Someone in me who constantly reminds me of how unnecessary it is for me to rush into a relationship now...just relax....when the suitable ones come along...i am sure we are all able to sense it..then at that moment we can slowly choose from the list of good choices lah..haha =P
what i learn in one of Pastor Prince's sermon was this....that a partner should not be seek for the purpose to fill the emptiness in us...or to complete us...in fact....we should not have a relationship until we feel WHOLE...meaning we are happy as a single...we don't feel a need for a relationship..we are happy with the idea we are alone...and we are able to function being alone....we don't need someone to save our days....that is when we are WHOLE....then only we are ready for a relationship...i find that very reasonable...
as for me, i don't feel a need for one....i might envy sweet couple being together...but i don't feel i can for now....perhaps not ready?....yea....most probably i am not...i know there are alot of things in my life i have to mend first....if i am not able to take care of myself properly yet...how can i handle another person who comes into my life?...besides, it is important to be the best as well as the right person for your partner..and i think it is also good to take longer time to screen and know people around us before choosing one...HEY...afterall it is not about choosing ANY RANDOM boyfriend....it is about choosing a life partner...one who will last forever in your life....so it is really super important to be careful....
however...hehehe...if a right one happens to come by, and ALL OF A SUDDEN because he came by, i feel ready....triggering my readiness....maybe i would go for it?..well, perhaps the reason why people are not ready is because they could not find one that match them yet?...perhaps so?...perhaps not?....LOL sound so wrong...sound compromising
anyway... lets abide in Him first =) the One who completes everything...
do write down comments on this....i wonder what interesting ideas or opinions i would get =P this is really a subjective kinda topic...really....do comment...! tell me what you think...can correct me too =) ...haha....
